YAY – You’re here! Whether you’ve diligently read through my introduction post, browsed over it while rolling your eyes, or skipped right to this page – you’re probably wondering why any of this matters. Sure, I’ve explained why I’m typing this here and not writing in a personal journal. But that doesn’t really explain the inspiration behind the blog, the justification for my being here, or why I chose a picture of the Greek Parthenon for my homepage.
Living With Mistakes. Those pretty words probably give you some indication of how I view life. But what does it mean? Hannah Montana got it right when she said “everybody makes mistakes”. It’s one of many things that connects as all as human beings. We’ve been making mistakes since the very beginning: collectively as a society since the beginning of time and individually since the beginning of our lives. At some point, we started making mistakes that came along with consequences. And that’s how we learned to do differently, to do better. So those pretty words absolutely mean we have to live with our own mistakes and the consequences they bring.
But what about other people’s mistakes? What about those mistakes that have consequences for us and not the person who f-ed up? We have to live with those mistakes too. And sometimes, we have to live without an apology or changed behavior from the person who screwed up. This can have long-term consequences for us in multiple aspects of our lives.
I definitely make my fair share of mistakes (sometimes ones that have negative consequences for other people too). So when I named my blog “Living With Mistakes”, it was a reminder to myself that mistakes will continue to be a part of my life – my mistakes and others’. It’s why I consider our world a work in progress. As an individual, we have never-ending opportunities to learn and grow. As a society, we can always do better. I hope that through this blog, I can learn to do and be better and I can positively impact some small part of the world.
Still curious about the Parthenon? The easy answer is that I spent a year in Greece and am a lover of Greek mythology (which is absolutely true!). The full answer is a bit more complicated. The Parthenon, a symbol of faith in ancient Greek civilization, has stood for 2,000 years. It’s gone through its share of difficulties and destruction throughout that time. Yet if you look closely at the photo (which was taken in August, 2019), you’ll see materials for reconstruction. Despite its difficulty in withstanding the effects of time, the Parthenon still stands and descendants of those who originally built it are doing their best to preserve and restore what is left! That’s pretty awesome and, in my opinion, a wonderful parallel to what we do as adults.
Our parents, families, and society build us from the ground up throughout childhood. Some of the pillars of who we are get knocked down as we transition to adulthood, as childhood interests disintegrate and are replaced by new ones. This is part of the “normal” process of maturing. But we aren’t built to expect disappointment and hurt. Those are things we learn about along the way. And sometimes those experiences can knock down the pillars of trust, openness, and love that have been established since our childhood. Yet as adults, we have to take responsibility for ourselves and start rebuilding some of those pillars in order to move forward.
This blog is a part of my attempt to rebuild the foundation and pillars I’ve had knocked down in my life. I’m really grateful you’ve decided to be a part of my journey!